My daughter knows how to wish, and not just any kind of wishes.
Big hairy audacious wishes, like I want to be a girl super hero, come naturally to my 5yo. Not too, too long ago, her deepest wish was to be a rainbow cooker.
When I asked what that meant, she looked at me with what I swear was a little bit of disappointment, like “How could you not know, mom?”
And what I eventually learned about rainbow cooking from her helped me understand why this is a most wonderful wish. Because a rainbow cooker is somebody who makes the most delicious and amazing things then feeds them to people who need them and this makes them happy.
And yes, she promised me a rainbow cake.
Sometimes, she wishes for American Girl dolls or trips to the trampoline park.
And sometimes, she wishes for Grandma Jane to visit from heaven or her blue baby to be able to talk back.
What matters, no what really matters, is the belief behind the wishes, the belief not only that it is possible but that it is possible for you. We like to say that 5yos have this capacity, the unspoken corollary being this is not possible by a certain age.
Which is simply not true.
Simply. Not. True.
Wishing is possible at every stage and really should be mandatory. Our children would do a lot better if we insisted they dedicated a little bit of school time daily to wishing and intentions and creativity instead of insisting they be realistic.
The problem is not that we are not good enough, smart enough, talented enough, determined enough to live the life we want. The problem, too often, is we do not spend time imagining it
Or if we do, we quickly tell ourselves it is impossible.
What I know for sure after years of teaching yoga and writing columns about professional sports is we create our reality by what we believe.
Now you probably have gotten out of practice of this BHAG wishing my 5yo does so naturally, settling instead for little wishes like I wish my boss would let me go home early or I wish my thighs were smaller.
Wishing is a skill. Best practiced often.
Start by asking yourself: If I were standing in front of a wishing well with a coin in my hand and anything was possible, what would I wish for?
Ask yourself: Where else do I want a breakthrough?
What’s next is where the leap comes in because it is not enough to ask or answer, dream or wish. The goal is to get and use tools to manifest this intention daily.
For me, every time I look at my rainbow moon stone necklace I am reminded of my intentions for my life.
More on them later.
Burn The Boats,